Comes The Dawn........

COMES THE DAWN
After awhile you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul. And you learn that love doesn't mean security, And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts And presents aren't promises. And you begin to accept your defeats with your head up and your eyes open. With the grace of maturity, not the grief of a child. And you learn to build all your roads on Today because tommorow's ground is too uncertain for plans, And futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight. After awhile you learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much. So you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, Instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers. And you learn that you really can endure... That you really are strong And that you really do have worth. And you learn and learn and learn .... With every goodbye you learn. -Veronica A. Shoftstall

My Mother first gave me this poem, after a breakup, my husband, who I am separated from now, gave it to me on a wooden plaque, and today after doing some relationship work exercises, writing out my relationships,I started with how my first marriage began, how it progressed, and how it ended......this poem came to mind, Ironically I have it saved to my computer as well. A lot of healing has taken place with this exercise, (which I felt strongly to do, after a prayer. After writing my morning pages, I began) the exercise was at the end of the chapter I was reading in Beyond Codependency, by Melody Beattie. the chapter on improving relationships, which I was very reluctant to read, dealing with the pain of my current separated marriage, but as I have trust in my God and where I am in my life, and trust him to lead, guide and direct me, I decided to read this chapter. This book as I read it, is always exactly where I am working in my day to day program of healing.I will begin next, same exercise and go on to the next relationship that followed. The Healing continues and I am so grateful!