Saturday, November 27, 2010

Emotion

You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go

Recognizing Feelings

Experiencing feelings can be a challenge if we've had no previous experience or permission to do that. Learning to identify what we're feeling is a challenge we can meet, but we will not become experts overnight. Nor do we have to deal with our feelings perfectly.

Here are some ideas that might be helpful as you learn to recognize and deal with feelings:

Take out a sheet of paper. On the top of it write, "If it was okay to feel whatever I'm feeling, and I wouldn't be judged as bad or wrong, what would I be feeling?" Then write whatever comes to mind. You can also use the favorite standby of many people in discovering their feelings: writing or journaling. You can keep a diary, write letters you don't intend to send, or just scribble thoughts onto a note pad.


Watch and listen to yourself as an objective third person might. Listen to your tone of voice and the words you use. What do you hear? Sadness, fear, anger, happiness?


What is your body telling you? Is it tense and rigid with anger? Running with fear? Heavy with sadness and grief? Dancing with joy?


Talking to people in recovery helps too. Going to meetings helps. Once we feel safe, many of us find that we open up naturally and with ease to our feelings.


We are on a continual treasure hunt in recovery. One of the treasures we're seeking is the emotional part of ourselves. We don't have to do it perfectly. We need only be honest, open, and willing to try. Our emotions are there, waiting to share themselves with us.


Today, I will watch myself and listen to myself as I go through my day. I will not judge myself for what I'm feeling; I will accept myself.

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

From Co Dependence the dance of wounded souls


"In order to start be-ing in the moment in a healthy, age-appropriate way it is necessary to heal our "inner child." The inner child we need to heal is actually our "inner children" who have been running our lives because we have been unconsciously reacting to life out of the emotional wounds and attitudes, the old tapes, of our childhoods."

Thought for the day from Todays Gift ~ from Inner Harvest by Elizabeth L


Hurts do heal.

Time has a wonderful way of erasing bad feelings and leaving us with good ones. Our memories are selective, and fortunately, the pleasant ones seem to have more staying power. Whatever has been real and meaningful for us tends to remain with us - the rest gradually fades away. We can assist this selective process of memory by consciously letting go of the thoughts and feelings that disturb our serenity.

You might imagine yourself making a package out of a disappointment, your hostility, some hurt feelings, or whatever is hampering your spirit. Wrap the package tightly and ship it off to a Higher Power. Send it airmail, if you like.

Refusing to dwell on our wounds allows them to heal more quickly. In our program, there is no place for self-pity. The reprieve we have is a daily one, and it depends on our spiritual condition. Gratitude for all the good fortune that comes our way keeps us healthy.

I will remember that what hurts today will pass in time. I can speed its departure by refusing to indulge in self-pity.

Sunday, October 17, 2010

Sensitive souls


Sensitive Souls

Great geniuses have the shortest biographies. Their cousins can tell you nothing about them. -James Thurber

In a college psychology class, I was required to read a book subtitled The Mental Institution as a Last Resort. The book's thesis

was that many people in mental institutions are not crazy, but just more sensitive than most people in the society. The authors suggested that many mental patents are simply too finely strung to fit into the mainstream, and an institution is a safe place-similar to an ashram or monasterywhere they can be who they are without having to adapt to a society that is in many ways more insane than they are.

Hilda Charlton noted that souls who are particularly fine-tuned emotionally, artistically, or spiritually are often unable to cope with the heaviness of the world, and so they turn to various addictions to escape. Alcoholics, drug addicts, and many mental patients are highly evolved souls who cannot find comfort, acceptance, or a forum for expression in their worldly circles, so they sedate their sense of homelessness with chemicals or insanity. Indeed, many great artists, musicians, thinkers, inventors, and visionaries have sought to take refuge in addiction or illusion.

A Course in Miracles confirms that we do need to escape from the world we see, for it is not a place of truth or Godliness. But, the Course asserts, we will not find refuge if we follow the promptings of fear; if you must escape, then escape into truth.

In the Hindu culture, holy men and women are revered and cared for by the society. Saints and mystics are not tested, prodded, poked, crossexamined, rationalized, written off, and shunned as they are in the West. In that culture, genuine visionaries are supported to do their spiritual work while people care for their worldly needs and responsibilities.

Let us honor our sensitivity and create a supportive space for talented souls to express our true self.

I pray to create a world in which the gifts of God are respected and empowered.

I express my artistic nature with courage and confidence.~Alan Cohen A Deep Breath Of Life

Friday, October 15, 2010

Daily Meditation

Connect with Source

Anyone who is too busy to pray is too busy. -Anonymous

Imagine a deep-sea diver in a diving suit with a long lifeline connected to his boat at the surface of the ocean. As the diver walks the ocean floor exploring the marvels of the deep, his life-support tube delivers a steady flow of vital oxygen to him. If his air tube becomes clogged or cut off, the diver will be unable to function; he will probably panic, flail, try to return to the surface, or expire.

We are like divers in earth suits, exploring the wonders of life on this planet. The earth is not our home; we are visitors here. Our true nature is not physical, but spiritual. We, too, have a life-support tube, and that is prayer, meditation, or any other form of communion with our Source. If our supply of spirit is cut off, we will not live well or long. Our connection to God is as important to our soul as the diver's supply of air to his body.

Each day, take time to feed your soul. Make your first priority any activity that nourishes your inner being. Pray or meditate, practice tai chi or yoga, walk in nature, play music, dance, read uplifting words, or share meaningful talks with friends. Any activity that renews your spirit is a form of prayer.

Commit to your spiritual practice first. Devote the beginning of your day to self-renewal. Your day will go better, and the time that you invest will pay for itself a thousandfold. Again, before you close your eyes to go to sleep, be with God. Feed your soul; it is your most important meal of the day.

You are my first priority. Knowing You makes all the difference in my life and my world. Knowing You is knowing myself. Be with me today, that I may be with You always.

Nourished by the spirit of love, my heart is whole.~ A Deep Breath of Life by Alan Cohen

Friday, October 1, 2010

Be Who you Are, if you don't ...who then? will be you?


Friday, October 1, 2010

You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go

Be Who You Are

In recovery; we're learning a new behavior. It's called Be Who You Are.

For some of us, this can be frightening. What would happen if we felt what we felt, said what we wanted, became firm about our beliefs, and valued what we needed? What would happen if we let go of our camouflage of adaptation? What would happen if we owned our power to be ourselves?

Would people still like us? Would they go away? Would they become angry?

There comes a time when we become willing and ready to take that risk. To continue growing, and living with ourselves, we realize we must liberate ourselves. It becomes time to stop allowing ourselves to be so controlled by others and their expectations and be true to ourselves - regardless of the reaction of others.

Before long, we begin to understand. Some people may go away, but the relationship would have ended anyway. Some people stay and love and respect us more for taking the risk of being whom we are. We begin to achieve intimacy, and relationships that work.

We discover that who we are has always been good enough. It is who we were intended to be.

Today, I will own my power to be myself.

Tuesday, September 28, 2010

A 3 Dimensional Painting


I Had a really beautiful experience I want to share......Sunday after church and it had been a very powerful sacrament meeting, sunday school studying Isaiah and wonderful lesson in Relief Society which is the women's hour......... and as the sun was going down I was out in the yard still in my church dress and there were beautiful breezes the ones that are so soft on your skin...and nature was calling..come look over here.......I went to get not a camera but a chair.....I immersed myself in the beauty of the sky as if it were a movie......The pink clouds had sunlit edges and were drifting and floating slowly across the sky carried by the soft southern breezes.... everything, the sky, the clouds, were all in layers just like a painting!!!!! as I sat there in total peace and blissfully content, one lone bird flew across my magnificent picture!! tying it all together in a 3 dimensional sort of way!!!!! It was a beautiful catch your breath moment, and only for a moment, if I were not still and waiting I would have missed it!!!!!! there was no other birds as my next thought was oh there will be many birds fly across but no there were not.... only this one.....A gift From Heavenly Father to me, this painting. oh how thankful I am ♥

Sunday, September 26, 2010

Thought for the Day -- Hazelden

Sunday, September 26, 2010

You are reading from the book Twenty Four Hours a Day Hardcover (24 Hours)

A.A. Thought for the Day

Continuing the consideration of the term spiritual experience: "The acquiring of an immediate and overwhelming God consciousness, resulting in a dramatic transformation, though frequent, is by no means the rule. Most of our spiritual experiences are of the educational variety, and they develop slowly over a period of time. Quite often friends of newcomers are aware of the difference long before they are themselves. They finally realize that they have undergone a profound alteration in their reaction to life and that such a change could hardly have been brought about by themselves alone." Is my outlook on life changing for the better?

Meditation for the Day

Look at the world as your Father's house. Think of all people you meet as guests in your Father's house, to be treated with love and consideration. Look at yourself as a servant in your Father's house, as a servant of all. Think of no work as beneath you. Be ever ready to do all you can for others who need your help. There is gladness in God's service. There is much satisfaction in serving the highest that you know. Express your love for God in service to all who are living with you in your Father's house.

Prayer for the Day

I pray that I may serve others out of gratitude to God. I pray that my work may be a small repayment for His grace so freely given me.

Tuesday, September 7, 2010



A whisper soft kiss felt amidst a conversational gathering. yet not their lips but their spirits embrace.....this one eternal moment of reaching deeply..... into the heart of a far away place....they who have lost their way are found in this dance.... and have yet still a glimpse... of one more chance.... her eyes looked lovingly up from a dream...your soul tells the story from the depths of your blue..... the aching longing the pleadings of you............... A yearning to believe.... they are not wrong.... they are different ..........change.......KJB

Tuesday, August 24, 2010

The Giving Tree step stool



First done digitally ...how I saw it on the stool
and then the actual painting on the stool, I really
like the tree digitally and had more space to give it that giving leaning look than I did on the actual stool

Dreaming. A Distraction Painting

Dreaming. A Distraction Painting

Dreaming. A Distraction Painting



A Distraction painting
As I looked around at the trees and the sweeping leaves.
everything was the giving tree
then I found myself due to deadline, pressure or just my life...
unable to paint, unable to paint what I saw in my mind.
after talking with a friend she encouraged me to paint in exercise
just sweeping strokes........this came from the sweeping
It is a painting of a dream I have had recurring in childhood
I fly over the trees and fields.there is no fear, even though I am afraid of heights
but I am not far from the ground either , just soaring over and looking down
I like to note also the orange healing energy coming out of the top of my head
not intended, but much of the things in my painting are not ;)

Thursday, June 24, 2010

Garden Party


The welcoming Dancing ♫ Monarch.....
The Sunflower beckons........
and the Lady bug just is ♥
The Garden P`A`R`T`Y

Tuesday, June 8, 2010

On Joy And Sorrow by Kahil Gibran

Then a woman said, "Speak to us of Joy and Sorrow."
And he answered:
Your joy is your sorrow unmasked.
And the selfsame well from which your laughter rises was oftentimes filled with your tears.
And how else can it be?
The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.
Is not the cup that hold your wine the very cup that was burned in the potter’s oven?
And is not the lute that soothes your spirit, the very wood that was hollowed with knives?
When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy.
When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.
Some of you say, "Joy is greater than sorrow," and others say, "Nay, sorrow is the greater."
But I say unto you, they are inseparable.
Together they come, and when one sits alone with you at your board, remember that the other is asleep upon your bed.
Verily you are suspended like scales between your sorrow and your joy.
Only when you are empty are you at standstill and balanced.
When the treasure-keeper lifts you to weigh his gold and his silver, needs must your joy or your sorrow rise or fall.

Friday, May 28, 2010

Thank You Heavenly Father for my Blessings












I should try to practice the presence of God. I can feel that He is with me and near me, protecting and strengthening me always. In spite of every difficulty, every trial, every failure, the presence of God suffices. Just to believe that He is near me brings strength and peace. I should try to live as though God were beside me. I cannot see Him because I was not made with the ability to see Him else there were no room for faith. But I can feel His spirit with me. ~ Twenty four Hours a day

This incredibly beautiful and powerful manifestation of God was with me on my walk home the other night following a beautiful downpour of rain....I was in awe, and as I kept following it and taking pictures, a car turned in front of me and I heard in a voice full of the appreciation of the same feeling as I had " isn't it beautiful!!!!!!!? As I turned away from the sky to see who the person sharing my world at this moment looked like.... his eyes were lit up in wonder, gratitude and amazement.....He reminded me of my nephew Hash....the connection of our spirits...in that fleeting moment.....brought together on a spiritual plane not connected to anything or anyone but the rainbow with all its magnificent power!!!! colors!!!! and glory!!! Then as I proceed on.. the last of the sun is outlining a huge mountainous cloud, and the last of the colors of the day were fading but soft and wondrous....now the moon is coming out, and it is still light enough to see a huge bird soaking wet in the top of the tree I am trying to capture..... I was so invigorated in spirit after this truly blessed walk......the same walk I do every night....but alas the many surprises this night :D

Wednesday, May 5, 2010

Todays Gift

Thought for the Day
Wednesday, May 5, 2010

You are reading from the book Today's Gift

I have spread my dreams under your feet;
Tread softly because you tread on my dreams.

—William Butler Yeats


When we hold a piece of crystal to the light, it paints rainbows on the wall. When we tap it lightly with a spoon, it sings like a bell. But when we drop it, it shatters in colorless, silent pieces on the floor.

Human beings, sometimes to our amazement, can be as fragile as glass. It's especially easy to forget what makes people we live with or have known for a long time shine or sing. We take for granted the very qualities that made us love them in the first place.


When we forget how to see and hear the people we love, how to appreciate them, we grow careless. Too often, from sheer neglect, the relationship between us grows dull and silent, then slips, falls, and shatters. Paying attention to other people's needs and feelings can prevent this.


Whose presence can I appreciate today?

Monday, April 5, 2010

Launguage of Letting Go daily meditation


You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go Detaching in Love Detachment is a key to recovery from codependency. It strengthens our healthy relationships - the ones that we want to grow and flourish. It benefits our difficult relationships - the ones that are teaching us to cope. It helps us! Detachment is not something we do once. It's a daily behavior in recovery. We learn it when were beginning our recovery from codependency and adult children issues. And we continue to practice it along the way as we grow and change, and as our relationships grow and change. We learn to let go of people we love, people we like, and those we don't particularly care for. We separate ourselves, and our process, from others and their process. We relinquish our tight hold and our need to control in our relationships. We take responsibility for ourselves; we allow others to do the same. We detach with the understanding that life is unfolding exactly as it needs to, for others and ourselves. The way life unfolds is good, even when it hurts. And ultimately, we can benefit from even the most difficult situations. We do this with the understanding that a Power greater than ourselves is in charge, and all is well. Today, I will apply the concept of detachment, to the best of my ability, in my relationships. If I cant let go completely, Ill try to hang on loose.

Friday, April 2, 2010


i. For His Atonement to be infinite and eternal, He had to feel what it was like to die not only physically but spiritually, to sense what it was like to have the divine Spirit withdraw, leaving one feeling totally, abjectly, hopelessly alone. But Jesus held on. He pressed on. The goodness in Him allowed faith to triumph even in a state of complete anguish. The trust He lived by told Him in spite of His feelings that divine compassion is never absent, that God is always faithful, that He never flees nor fails us. When the uttermost farthing had then been paid, when Christ’s determination to be faithful was as obvious as it was utterly invincible, finally and mercifully, it was “finished.”18 Against all odds and with none to help or uphold Him, Jesus of Nazareth, the living Son of the living God, restored physical life where death had held sway and brought joyful, spiritual redemption out of sin, hellish darkness, and despair. With faith in the God He knew was there, He could say in triumph, “Father, into thy hands I commend my spirit

Removing the stumbling blocks


Facing Our Darker Side

Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
—Step Four of Al-Anon

By the time we get to the Fourth of the Twelve Steps, we are ready to face our darker side, the side that prevents us from loving others, from letting others love us, and from enjoying life and ourselves. The purpose of Step Four is not to make ourselves feel worse; our purpose is to begin to remove our blocks to joy and love.

We look for fears, anger, hurt, and shame from past events - buried feelings that may be affecting our life today. We search for subconscious beliefs about others and ourselves that may be interfering with the quality of our relationships. These beliefs say: I'm not lovable . . . I'm a burden to those around me . . . People can't be trusted . . . I can't be trusted . . . I don't deserve to be happy and successful . . . Life isn't worth living. We look at our behaviors and patterns with an eye toward discerning the self-defeating ones. With love and compassion for ourselves, we try to unearth all our guilt - earned and unearned - and expose it to the light.

We perform this examination without fear of what we shall find, because this soul searching can cleanse us and help us feel better about ourselves than we ever dreamt possible.

God, help me search out the blocks and barriers within myself. Bring what I need to know into my conscious mind, so I can be free of it. Show me what I need to know about myself.

Thursday, March 25, 2010

No Worries


Thursday, March 25, 2010

You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go

Letting Go of Worry

What if we knew for certain that everything we're worried about today will work out fine?

What if . . . we had a guarantee that the problem bothering us would be worked out in the most perfect way, and at the best possible time? Furthermore, what if we knew that three years from now we'd be grateful for that problem, and its solution?

What if . . . we knew that even our worst fear would work out for the best?

What if . . . we had a guarantee that everything that's happening, and has happened, in our life was meant to be, planned just for us, and in our best interest?

What if . . . we had a guarantee that the people we love are experiencing exactly what they need in order to become who they're intended to become? Further, what if we had a guarantee that others can be responsible for themselves, and we don't have to control or take responsibility for them?

What if . . . we knew the future was going to be good, and we would have an abundance of resources and guidance to handle whatever comes our way?

What if . . . we knew everything was okay, and we didn't have to worry about a thing? What would we do then?

We'd be free to let go and enjoy life.

Today, I will know that I don't have to worry about anything. If I do worry, I will do it with the understanding that I am choosing to worry, and it is not necessary.

Wednesday, March 17, 2010

Simple Work




On days when life feels out of control, we feel good when we do one simple job: clean the messy desk, wash dirty dishes, shovel the snowy walk. In this way we regain control of our feelings as well as a perspective on those things within our control. What simple work do I need to do to feel better today?

Wednesday, March 10, 2010

Be Still....


Wednesday, March 10, 2010

You are reading from the book Twenty Four Hours a Day

A.A. Thought for the Day

We also strengthen our faith by working with other alcoholics and finding that we can do nothing ourselves to help them, except to tell them our own story of how we found the way out. If the other person is helped, it's by the grace of God and not by what we do or say. Our own faith is strengthened when we see another alcoholic find sobriety by turning to God. And finally we strengthen our faith by having quiet times every morning. Do I ask God in this quiet time for the strength to stay sober this day?

Meditation for the Day

My five senses are my means of communication with the material world. They are the links between my physical life and the material manifestations around me. But I must sever all connections with the material world when I wish to hold communion with the Great Spirit of the universe. I have to hush my mind and bid all my senses be still, before I can become attuned to receive the music of the heavenly spheres.

Prayer for the Day

I pray that I may get my spirit in tune with the Spirit of the universe. I pray that through faith and communion with Him I may receive the strength I need.

Sunday, February 28, 2010

a study of inadequacy

Grace~ Unmerited help given to people by God (as in overcoming temptation)
Ether 12:27 And if men come unto me I will show unto them their aweakness. I bgive unto men weakness that they may be humble; and my cgrace is sufficient for all men that dhumble themselves before me; for if they humble themselves before me, and have faith in me, then will I make eweak things become strong unto them.

STEP 1~ ADMITTED WE WERE POWERLESS

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Jacob 4: 7.
7 Nevertheless, the Lord God showeth us our aweakness that we may know that it is by his bgrace, and his great condescensions unto the children of men, that we have power to do these things.

Exodus 4:11 And the Lord said unto him, Who hath made man’s mouth? or who amaketh the dumb, or deaf, or the seeing, or the blind? have not I the Lord?

STEP 2~ CAME TO BELIEVE IN A POWER GREATER THAN OURSELVES

1Corinthians 1:27 But God hath chosen the afoolish things of the world to bconfound the wise; and God hath chosen the cweak things of the world to confound the things which are mighty;

2 Cor. 12: 9 9 And he said unto me, My agrace is sufficient for thee: for my bstrength is made perfect in cweakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may drest upon me

STEP 3~ MADE A DECISION TO TURN OUR WILL AND OUR LIVES OVER TO THE CARE OF GOD AS WE UNDERSTOOD GOD

Monday, February 22, 2010


If I have freedom in my life,
And in my soul am free,
Angels alone that soar above
Enjoy such liberty.

--Richard Lovelace
When a cow decides to stop nursing her calf, she isn't rejecting it. She knows it's time for the calf to be on its own. Although the calf might feel rejected and puzzled at first, it soon adapts to its new independence and freedom. When we feel rejected, it's useful to remember that whatever has caused us to feel this way might have nothing to do with us. It might be a reflection of what's happening with someone else, or just the end of a natural stage in life, as with the calf.
When we understand that others' actions toward us come from their own feelings, and that we don't cause their feelings any more than they control ours, we can free ourselves from a little bit of fear and self-hate. We can see what seems to be rejection as an open door, with our freedom on the other side. ~ Today's Gift

Tuesday, January 26, 2010

My Creativity Is In The Kitchen Today

Today I made Thai Tofu and Granola

Kim's Thai Tofu today
I browned the tofu in a light tasting olive oil
when I put it into the pan, I sprinkled sesame seeds over the top
then I made a sauce of Asian ginger and raspberry vinagrettes
red curry paste, hot sauce and cayenne, soy sauce and duck sauce,
you know the little packets that come with the Chinese take out :D
then I sauteed fresh garlic, added sliced fresh ginger, and added to the sauce mixture
now pour over the tofu, reduce heat and let the tofu take on the flavors
I do this different every time, the way I cook everything.......
depending on what is around :D

Kim's Granola today
I start with everything wet, peanut butter, apple sauce, vanilla
then I put in sunflower seeds, and this is today's granola...cranberries and raw nuts
but again depending on what is around...... that is what went in today...
raisins, cinnamon, nutmeg, chia seed and ground flax seed, watch these last two, they will make the mixture too thick if you over do......stir this all together, and last add in the oats
stir till everything is moistened and spread on a sheet pan.....bake at 400
it seems maybe 10 min, but you are waiting for the first side to brown, turn and leave another 5? just brown slightly the other side....cool and store in a plastic container :)
Great nutrition here, and the good thing,there is no oil, most of the granola I have had has oil, yes the peanut butter does have oil, but naturally from the peanuts ........Peace

Sunday, January 17, 2010

Yes I know Heavenly Father loves me


Whenever I hear, the song of a bird, or look at the blue, blue sky...
Whenever I feel, the rain on my face, or the wind as it rushes by.....
Whenever I touch a velvet rose, or walk by our lilac tree, I'm glad that I live in this beautiful world, Heavenly Father created for me.
He gave me my eyes, that I might see, the color of butterfly wings...
He gave me my ears, that I might hear, the magical sound of things.
He gave me my life, my mind, my heart, I thank him reverently,
For all his creations, from which I'm a part, Yes I know Heavenly Father Loves me.

Friday, January 15, 2010

Anger


Anger exists when particular conditions in our lives are not met as we had hoped.
We can get free of anger, if we choose to take action appropriate to it. Anger can be
a healthy prompter of action. When no action is taken, anger turns inward, negatively influencing our perceptions of all experiences of human interaction.

Tuesday, January 12, 2010

Comes The Dawn........


COMES THE DAWN
After awhile you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul. And you learn that love doesn't mean security, And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts And presents aren't promises. And you begin to accept your defeats with your head up and your eyes open. With the grace of maturity, not the grief of a child. And you learn to build all your roads on Today because tommorow's ground is too uncertain for plans, And futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight. After awhile you learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much. So you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, Instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers. And you learn that you really can endure... That you really are strong And that you really do have worth. And you learn and learn and learn .... With every goodbye you learn. -Veronica A. Shoftstall

My Mother first gave me this poem, after a breakup, my husband, who I am separated from now, gave it to me on a wooden plaque, and today after doing some relationship work exercises, writing out my relationships,I started with how my first marriage began, how it progressed, and how it ended......this poem came to mind, Ironically I have it saved to my computer as well. A lot of healing has taken place with this exercise, (which I felt strongly to do, after a prayer. After writing my morning pages, I began) the exercise was at the end of the chapter I was reading in Beyond Codependency, by Melody Beattie. the chapter on improving relationships, which I was very reluctant to read, dealing with the pain of my current separated marriage, but as I have trust in my God and where I am in my life, and trust him to lead, guide and direct me, I decided to read this chapter. This book as I read it, is always exactly where I am working in my day to day program of healing.I will begin next, same exercise and go on to the next relationship that followed. The Healing continues and I am so grateful!

Sunday, January 10, 2010

THE ILLUSION OF CONTROL
One of the most lethal behaviors in which we Women Who Do Too Much regularly participate is trying to control ourselves and others (and situations and things!).

What we do is feed our “Illusion of Control.”

This year, let’s take a good look at this illusion and the damage it can cause—to ourselves, to others, to our relationships, to our work, and to our lives.